The Big Six
Whatever Brought You Here,
It Lives in One of These
In 17 years of this work, everything anyone has ever brought me has belonged to one of six things.
Not six categories I invented to organise a website. Six territories that a human life actually runs on — and when something is wrong, it is wrong in one of them, or in two of them at the same time without the person realising the two are connected.
Read them. One will sound like you. That is the beginning of the work — not the answer, but knowing where to stand while we look for it.
THE SIX CARDS
l Wealth & Success
Hitting an income ceiling year after year. Anxiety around receiving or keeping money. Sabotaging success right when it arrives. Feeling like an imposter no matter what you achieve.
ll Relationships & Love
Attracting emotionally unavailable or draining partners. Repeating the same dynamic across relationships. Walking on eggshells in a marriage. The pattern that returns regardless of who the other person is.
lll Health & Vitality
Long-residing physical issues, chronic fatigue, hormonal imbalance. The body holding something the mind refuses to look at. Depletion that rest does not fix.
lV Purpose & Direction
Standing at a crossroads with no clear direction. Feeling disconnected from meaning. The emptiness that achievement does not fill. The searching that has not yet found its container.
V Family & Belonging
The invisible dynamics that shape how your family moves together. Generational patterns, unspoken tensions, the roles assigned before
you were old enough to choose them. The family you came from — and the one you are building.
Vl Soul Calling
You have built the life. You have done everything right. And yet something pulls — quietly, persistently — toward a version of yourself you have not yet become. Not a career change. Not a relationship. Something deeper. The calling that will not go quiet no matter how much you
achieve.
CLOSING — WHY THERE IS NO SEVENTH
This section sits directly beneath the six cards. It is where the name earns itself.
There is no seventh.
I have looked for one. In sixteen years I have not found a human difficulty that does not live inside these six, and I no longer expect to. What looks like a seventh problem almost alway turns out to be one of the six wearing different clothing — a business that will not grow is rarely a business problem, and exhaustion is rarely about sleep.
Which is why they are worth naming. Once you know which of the Big Six you are actually standing in, the question stops being what is wrong with me and becomes something far more useful: what is this, and where did it begin.
Most people arrive believing they are in one and discover they are in two. That is not bad news. It usually means there is a single root underneath both — and a single root can be worked with.
And then what?
Knowing which of the six you are in tells you where to stand. It does not yet tell you what to do — that depends on what is underneath it, which is what the work is for.
If you already know which one brought you here, begin with a conversation. If you do not, that is an equally good reason to begin with one.